Season 2, Episode 14

Are There Still Things in a Relationship That You Aren't Supposed to Say?

 

Absolutely! I think that this goes along the lines of the phrase, fight fair! Often times when couples get into arguments, they find the meanest things to say to one another. Some of those things cant be taken back once they are said. Telling your  partner that you don't like their mother, or that they don't know how to please their mate in bed are just some of the DON'Ts in relationship fights.

 

Having an open line of communication when in a relationship, is very important. However, over time, you realize that there are things that your partner just doesn't want to hear and will no longer say. My husband has learned not to critisize the lack  of housework that I  manage to get done, since I own a business and work full time. I have learned to do the same, since he does a lot of the housework and works full time. It is just a fight that no longer needs to happen. Money is another subject that isn't the best to talk about unless absolutely necessary. I don't critisize  him for what he buys and he does not ask me. It saves a lot of headaches!

 

What are your thoughts?

Season 2, Episode 13

What Are the Break-Up Rules?

 

Over the years, I have been subjected to and initiated many break-ups. Some of them were not even mine. I am reminded of a drunken night in which I assisted a pseudo-friend to break up with a guy that she was pseudo-dating. By this I mean that I had never met the girl until earlier that night, and that she was "dating" a guy who was already married...but she was paying for his cell phone anyway. A friend of mine had known this girl for quite some time, but had just found out about this pseudo-boyfriend. She, the girl, and I had quite a few drinks before going to a pool hall one night.

 

In fact, this girl got so drunk that she allowed me to call this so-called BF and break up with him for her. I even demanded that he return the phone and pay for the bill himself. He, of course, called back several times during that night, and everytime, I picked up the phone and broke up with him for her and demanded the phone and payment of the bill. I am sure that the next morning when she woke up and her voicemail was flooded with voicemails from her so-called BF, she regretted the night entirely.

 

What are the break up rules? I don't really think that there are any. There is common courtesy, of course. But, when it comes to break-ups, you are either cruel or super sweet.

 

What are your thoughts on break-up rules? What was the craziest break-up that you had?

Season 1, Episode 12

Are Relationships the Religions of the 90s?

They might even be the religion of the millenium! With the signs of the apocalypse nearer and nearer, why aren't more people turning to organized religion? It seems that the adults of my generation and the generation before me have turned away from the house of worship and focused more on socialization. Was this something that we picked up along the way, or were all of us subjected to long, boring surmons on an empty stomach as children?

My grandmother used to take us to church every Sunday morning. My mother would insist that we go with her. We would arrive earlier than everyone else and stay later than everyone else. It was nightmarish. I remember dozens of hours spend laying on the church bench with a headache and an empty stomach hoping that it would end soon so that I could have a snack. Communion days were the best! After church my sister and I would run down the stairs to the basement kitchen and eat leftover bread and drink leftover grape juice. It was the best when there were no other children at church that day, because we would get all of it. Otherwise, it was a long treck back home with grandma in a car with no snacks and an uncle who had grandma stop for KFC on the way home, but never shared. It was torture smelling that KFC all the way home without being able to enjoy the taste of it. To this day, I think of those car rides everytime I pass a KFC.

What are your religion stories?

Season 1, Episode 11

How Often is Normal?

What a question! I guess that would just depend on how horny you are, right? Marriage does slow things down a bit in the bedroom. My hubby and I used to go at it like rabbits before we were married. Now, the poor guy is lucky to get it every other week. Too many things go on that prevent the lovemaking mood. It doesn't really help that my hubby is still in his sexual prime and women don't reach their sexual peek until their 40s or 50s. What is up with that?

Why would someone create a man who was riveting with sexual energy in his twenties and could go for hours, but didn't know what he was doing? Then turn around and make that same man more experienced in his 40s but not able to keep it going. While the woman reaches the height of her sexuality around the time that the man falters. That just seems like bad creating to me.

What are your thoughts about sex? Is it normal to do it daily?

Season 1, Episode 10

What Secret Lives are Mommies Hiding?

I don't know if I know enough mommies to answer this question. I know that my mom hid things. I am not too sure what things I am hiding from my stepdaughter. Are things that are not age appropriate considered hiding things?

When I was younger, my parents were stoners. It was a secret until my sister and I found my mom's stash well after my parents were divorced. It became a running joke when she would get home in an extremely foul mood that she needed to go light up. Fortunately for us, it wasn't just a joke. It really did make a big difference! She doesn't do that anymore, but it was a mommy secret.

I can't recall any mommy secrets of my own. I am pretty straight forward with my stepdaughter. My hubby used to partake, but doesn't anymore. He is saving it for his retirement party. I just couldn't handle the thoughts of liability that go along with getting caught.

What mommy secrets do you know about? Are you hiding something from your kids?

Season 1, Episode 9

Is it Better to Marry Someone who Loves you More than You Love Them?

I could say that it is better to marry someone who is equally in love with you, but how fairy tale is that? How can you tell if someone loves you more than you love them? Everyone shows their affection in different ways, right?

I think that as long as you marry someone who is in love with you, you should be okay! I was proposed to at the age of 18. On my 18th birthday, in fact. Though it seems looking back, neither one of us were really in love with one another. I don't even know why he proposed. Mr. M. proposed to me in front of my family and friends at my birthday party. If he would have had it his way, it would have been in front of an assembly at my high school. I was glad that wasn't the case. Looking back, I think that I said yes because I didn't want to embarass him in front of my family and friends. My friends, Donte & James, gave me a very interesting gift that year, which Mr. M. was not very happy about. It was the movie "Fools Rush In". I thought it was funny. Mr. M. thought it was rude.

Anywho, Mr. M. cheated on me several times and tried to get my sister in the sack while we were engaged. Luckily for me, my sister was more loyal to me than he was. It ended. He left the state and fled back to live with his parents. He eventually got married and moved back down to Florida. While I was away at AIT for the Army, Hurricane Charlie came through and cleansed the state of Mr. M. who again moved back to Indiana. I believe that he still lives there.

What are your thoughts on marriage? Is marrying someone without love okay? Will it work out?

Season 1, Episode 8

Were Threesomes the New Sexual Frontier?

In the days of sexual tolerance, are threesomes really a big deal? We now have access online to people who are ready to find couples who swing, wife swaps, and S&M. Due to this evidence, I cant really say that threesomes are the new sexual frontier. I think that they have been explored quite well at this time. 

Though I have never experienced a threesome in my married life, I did dabble in one while single (in a relationship). Well, more like I was coaxed into it with alcohol. It was a test that I guess I didn't pass. My boyfriend at the time, we will call him, Mr. J. had a friend over and we were all drinking. Mr. J. decided that I should kiss his friend. It went a little further, and a little further, until a threesome was underway. Apparently, Mr. J. didn't really want me to go through with this act and had been testing my loyalty, even though he was the one coaxing me into going through with it...and filling me with alcohol. No regrets, though. Mr. J. was obviously not someone to enter into a committed relationship with.

My hubby, however, has a different spin on things. He has been engaged in threesomes during a past marriage, and I believe also outside of marriage. I don't know all of the details, and I am pretty sure that I am okay with that. We have talked about threesomes, but cant seem to get around that whole having sex with another person thing. Still kind of feels like cheating to me, and to him, at least while you are married. But, if you are single, I say go for it. Being single leaves you open for experimentation.

What are your thoughts on threesomes? Are they still taboo?